BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHY IS NOT A SEXY BUSINESS, AND NJ BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHER CATE SCAGLIONE IS ABOUT TO TELL YOU WHY.
My business is about Life as Fine Art. That means, acknowledging art as a celebration of your passions, and that the mere art of living on your own terms ...It's an art form in and of itself.
People often mistake that I am simply a "boudoir photographer". I am not. I'm a photographer for anyone who feels brave and passionate enough to express themselves through art.
Most of the time, this happens to be women. I think this is because we often feel suppressed expression. We crave it. We are so busy filling other roles, tuning into other channels, that we lose our channel of self-expression.
So many roles...Wife, Mother, Executive, Friend, Counselor, Referee, Enforcer, Planner, Strategist. I am not suggesting we do more than our male counterparts. I am acknowledging that as biological nurturers, it is a multi-faceted role we are born into. It just like being born into royalty (without the pomp and circumstance or servants, unfortunately).
We are a different kind of Royals. We are Queens of what we choose to nurture in life.
Even if you were to consider yourself an "Alpha" woman, (we all know who they are within our own lives), you'll find you too, are Nurturers. Because...
Being a woman is not simply a sexual orientation. It is a spiritual one.
You can Nuture a child, a pet, an employee, a career, a house, a plant, an art form. We are born to do this (or all of it simultaneously). It makes no difference if we are a mother or not, single or married, gay or straight. We still have these womanly X chromosomes and we will find something to nurture. That is a beautiful wondrous gift from nature.
Men are nurturers too. They just do it differently. That's also a beautiful unique thing. I can devote an entire blog post to the awesomeness of a nurturing male. But today, it's about our Queens.
The role of "Nurturer" both enriches and destroys me as a Queen based on what I choose or don't choose to nurture.
I've made some unquestionably fabulous moves as a nurturer:
- Prioritizing my family's, and especially my young children's happiness and confidence above all else
- Treating clients like my own family in the spirit of fulfilling their needs
- Choosing to do the right thing by people and stand up for what's right. Even when it's unpopular. (Sidenote: Good karma is the most powerful force in the universe).
I've made some risky moves as nurturer:
- It was probably not nurturing my career when I once told off a senior-level, highly influential but chauvenist pig boss, then quit with a huge smile. (Sidenote...that's an utterly amazing liberating experience.)
- It was probably not nurturing my Photography business's success when I kept quiet during a major business conflict and let individuals smear my name throughout my industry (Sidenote: High road always, eventually prevails, y'all).
- I am not nurturing my bank account by sometimes putting my clients' priorities and well-being before my own and treating profit as a secondary priority (...Or does it?)
I could argue the merits of any of these moves I make.
But the point I am trying to make here ...is this:
Often times as women there is one person we forget to nurture... That is OUR SELF.
Some people find themselves embarassed to book a boudoir session (and really I like to call it Intimate Portraits not "boudoir" due to that stigma).
Or, they book it in secret.
Or, they feel selfishly overly-indulgent to invest money on themselves. ("3 pairs of back-to-school Air Jordans costs a LOT").
Or, they feel they aren't "perfect enough" yet for the session. (Huh?)
^ ^ There is NOTHING sexy about that.
And, meanwhile, a large portion of my miscrocosm on Facebookland is afraid to even look, acknowledge, or comment that I shoot this style (and yes it is simply an individual "style") of sessions. Because they view it as overly sexy, shameful or trivial. It is none of these things...
I am in the business of Nurturing. Nurturing my clients, their self-image and their view of self-intimacy. I am in the business of reinforcing happiness. This is for all the Queens who nurture so many other things and all too often forget themselves. Nothing more, nothing less.